A Step-by-Step Guide to Planning an Ash Scattering Ceremony

When a loved one passes away, finding a way to honor their life is an important part of the healing process. One increasingly popular and meaningful option is scattering their ashes in a location that held significance to them or in a setting that captures the essence of who they were. Whether it’s a serene beach, a majestic national park, or a quiet forest, an ash scattering ceremony offers a beautiful way to say goodbye and celebrate their life.

However, planning an ash scattering ceremony can feel overwhelming, especially when you want to make sure every detail is done with respect and care. In this step-by-step guide, we’ll walk you through the process of organizing a meaningful and memorable ash scattering ceremony that is reflective of your loved one’s life.

Choose the Right Location

The first and most important step in planning an ash scattering ceremony is selecting a meaningful location. You want to choose a place that was significant to the deceased or that embodies their personality, passions, or spirit. Here are some things to consider when picking the location:

• Personal significance: Was there a special place your loved one loved to visit or hold dear? Maybe it was a national park, a favorite hiking trail, or the family cabin.

• Access and permits: Make sure the location is accessible, and check whether any permits or special regulations are required for scattering ashes in that area. Some places, like national parks or protected areas, have specific rules.

• Weather conditions: If you’re planning an outdoor ceremony, keep in mind the weather conditions during the time of year. You’ll want to plan accordingly for the best possible experience.

At BONAVENTURE, we offer unaccompanied ash scattering services at several breathtaking locations across the U.S., including national parks, coastlines, and tranquil forests. Our expert team handles the logistics, so you can focus on the meaningful part of the ceremony.

Gather the Necessary Legal Information

While scattering ashes is generally legal in many places, there are rules and regulations that need to be followed. Understanding the legal requirements ensures that the ceremony is conducted in a respectful and lawful manner.

• Federal and state regulations: Different states have different rules about where and how ashes can be scattered, especially in public areas or natural reserves. For example, some national parks may require a permit.

• Waterways: If you plan to scatter ashes at sea or in a body of water, the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) requires that the ashes be scattered at least three nautical miles from shore, and you must notify the EPA within 30 days.

Before you begin planning, check with local authorities or the organization overseeing the location for any specific regulations. At BONAVENTURE, we ensure that all necessary legalities and permits are taken care of, so your ceremony can go forward without any hitches.

Decide on the Ceremony Details

Now that the location and legal requirements are sorted, it’s time to think about the details of the ceremony itself. What kind of tribute would your loved one appreciate the most? There are several ways to personalize the ceremony and make it truly special.

• Speeches or readings: A short speech, reading, or personal eulogy can be a beautiful way to reflect on the life of the deceased. Many families also choose to read a poem, quote, or religious passage that was meaningful to their loved one.

• Music: Some families choose to play a favorite song or instrumental music during the scattering. Music adds a layer of emotion and connection to the ceremony.

• Symbolic gestures: Light a candle, release biodegradable flowers, or perform a simple ritual like a moment of silence. These acts can help everyone present feel connected and offer a sense of closure.

• Incorporate personal items: Some families choose to scatter a small portion of ashes alongside a keepsake, such as a favorite memento, personal letter, or photo, to further personalize the ceremony.

You might also consider having a small, intimate ceremony or inviting close family and friends to join you in the moment. It’s important that the ceremony reflects your loved one’s character and the way they lived their life.

Plan the Timing

The timing of the ceremony plays a key role in setting the tone and ambiance. When is the best time for you and your loved ones to gather? What will enhance the beauty of the moment?

• Time of day: The time of day can drastically affect the atmosphere. A sunrise ceremony can represent a new beginning, while a sunset ceremony may symbolize the end of a journey.

• Season and weather: Think about the season and typical weather conditions at the location. If you plan to scatter ashes at a coastal or mountain site, consider the temperature and weather. For beach ceremonies, early morning or late afternoon can offer more privacy, as well as cooler temperatures and less wind.

At BONAVENTURE, we offer the flexibility to time the scattering to maximize beauty and serenity, whether it’s during the soft glow of sunrise, the calm of midday, or the breathtaking colors of sunset.

Prepare the Ashes

Once the location, ceremony, and timing are set, it’s time to prepare the ashes for scattering. Here are a few things to consider:

• Transporting the ashes: If you’re handling the ashes yourself, make sure they are securely packaged for transport. Many funeral homes offer decorative urns for keeping ashes, but a simple, sealed container is often best for travel.

• Scattering tools: Depending on the location, you may want to use a special scattering urn or a biodegradable urn that allows the ashes to disperse more evenly and gracefully. For water ceremonies, there are urns designed specifically for water scattering that float briefly before sinking gently.

At BONAVENTURE, we handle the transportation of ashes for you, ensuring they are securely delivered to the scattering location. We also provide special scattering urns and tools to make the process seamless and respectful.

Involve Family and Friends (Optional)

While BONAVENTURE specializes in unaccompanied ash scattering, some families may wish to have others present for the ceremony. In such cases, it’s important to involve close family members or friends who will help you celebrate your loved one’s life.

• Informing loved ones: If you plan to have family or close friends present, communicate the details of the ceremony clearly. This ensures that everyone knows what to expect and can contribute to the ceremony in their own meaningful way.

• Celebrating together: After the scattering, consider having a small gathering, such as a picnic or memorial service, to share memories and honor the life of the deceased. This allows everyone to continue the celebration of your loved one’s life in a warm and supportive environment.

Memorialize the Scattering

Once the ashes have been scattered, many families choose to honor the moment with a lasting memorial. You can:

• Create a commemorative plaque: Some families opt for a memorial plaque at the location of the scattering, or a nearby spot that symbolizes their loved one’s legacy. This could be engraved with a special message, name, or significant date.

• Plant a tree or garden: You might also consider planting a tree or a garden in memory of your loved one as a lasting tribute to their connection with nature.

At BONAVENTURE, we offer commemorative plaques that can include a small portion of your loved one’s ashes, allowing you to keep a piece of them with you forever.

Reflect and Heal

The scattering ceremony is just one part of the grieving process. Afterward, take time to reflect and allow yourself to grieve in a way that feels right for you. The act of scattering ashes is meant to help you find closure and peace, but it’s important to honor your emotions and memories as you continue your journey of healing.

Planning an ash scattering ceremony is a deeply personal experience, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. By carefully considering the location, timing, and ceremony details, you can create a tribute that reflects your loved one’s life and legacy. BONAVENTURE is here to guide you through every step, ensuring a seamless, respectful, and meaningful farewell that honors your loved one in a way they deserve.

If you're considering a destination ash scattering ceremony, contact us today to learn more about our services and available locations. Let us help you make this beautiful, final act as peaceful and meaningful as possible.